"There are never enough hours in a day." I find myself saying this over and over. As a mother we all know the work never ends. As soon as we fold and put away one load of laundry another laundry basket is full to the brim. As soon as you finish cleaning the kitchen after lunch time it is snack time. On and on it goes all day long. Somewhere in between all of the normal daily tasks a mother also likes to find time to be herself. Which can feel like very impossible at times.
As a busy mom, how does one find time to manage it all while still making time for herself?
I want to encourage you in this: It is possible. As a mom you have the right to be you. In fact it is probably better for your family and friends if you are able to stay authentic to who you are. It is when we loose ourselves completely that we become depressed, un-happy and we find ourselves with nothing left to give. In order to keep giving we must make time to receive.
I love this quote, because I think it hits the nail on the head and is the secret to having balance in your life. Balance is not something you find it is something you create. So Powerful, uplifting and encouraging! It means this: balance is in your control! You don't have to fall into the death trap that you just can' have balance in a day...because you can!
How do busy mom create balance?
1.They Prioritize. A busy mom knows what is important and what is not. And she makes sure the things that need to get done do and the things that are not a priority she does not worry herself about. So many of waste time doing things that don't get us any closer to our goals and at the end of the day we look back and wonder what the heck we did all day. When your actions line up with your goals you will feel a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day instead of feeling like you never got done what you wanted to get done.
To see if your actions are lining up with your priorities do this simple task:
Create two columns: What I do on a daily basis / Priorities for my life.
Start on the right side and write down your priorities. What is important to you? Then go back to left side and fill in what tasks you actually do on a daily basis. when you are done sit back and compare your actions to your priorities. Is what you do on a daily basis getting you any closer to your goals and dreams? If not then it is time to re-prioritize.
2. Busy moms set schedules. I am NOT a fan of schedules, but they are necessary. Kids need to know what time they are going to eat next and you need to know when you will have time to do certain things. By setting a schedule you can make sure your kids, your husband and you are getting in all the things you need. And this makes everyone happy instead of mom doing for everyone else and then getting upset that she never has time for herself. She schedules her time and utilizes it!
3. ASK FOR HELP! This is hard for most busy moms, But one way to create balance is to Ask someone for help. We can not do it all alone, so why do we keep trying?? LOL Find someone you can depend on and let them help you get some things done!
4. Know when to say NO. It is so easy to say yes to everything and then you get soo overwhelmed that you can can not give anything 100%. It is better to have few things to do that you can give 100% to then being able to only give 50% to a bunch of things.
5.Don't be too hard on yourself. There is no such thing as perfection and as humans we are supposed to fail. Don't be your own worst critic. Have grace with yourself and remember we all fall. It isn't about how many times you fall it is about how many times you get up! The secret to not being too hard on yourself is to keep moving! Don't hold onto to what does not serve you! Don't hold onto the negative. Don't hold onto the past. Let it go and let it flow!
Remember you create the balance you want in your life!
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven-- A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted. A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance. A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing. A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away. A time to tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to be silent and a time to speak. A time to love and a time to hate; A time for war and a time for peace.
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